Grief isn't just for death. But it is always about loss.
Loss of friendships, loss of routines or membership of groups you once enjoyed and now are gone, ended or changed. Loss of peace or a sense of knowing yourself or where you are going, what you are doing or what you are thinking. Loss comes in many different forms. It might be loss of security in your judgement or a movement into a different time of your life, one that changes your body shape, your hormones and the possibilities that you once thought you had.
I deal with this daily at the moment. In the current climate there is so much loss that creates grief responses from avoidance and denial to anger and outbursts that my work in restorative practices is almost exclusively dealing with people’s feelings of threat and uncertainty. Knowing how to compassionately connect with those grief feelings and manage the responses is a crucial restorative skill.
LJ Sayers is a restorative practitioner, trainer and consultant, living in Northern Ireland. She is a wife to JP (her rock), a mum to J (her reason and purpose), a Covid Redundant Hugger, Storyteller and Chief Quality Controller of all chocolate in her household.